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Tag Archives: India
Why They Talk
You know they talk about her because she matters. Is she strong enough to stay confident, or will she feel shaken up and shatter?
A Prayer For Bilkis Bano
India celebrated 75 years of independence on August 15th 2022. And the eleven men convicted in the Bilkis Bano gang-rape case walked free that day.
I write this post to make an appeal to all of you my readers, to pray for Bilkis Bano and her family. I ask all of you to keep them in your thoughts for a little while every day. Every moment you can give Bilkis Bano counts.
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Toe The Line
Should I be like you and tow the line,
follow rules that served a different time?
I Won’t Be A Victim
I won’t be a victim – I ‘ll take the controls. Dig my own ditches or explore a new road.
Lonely
They want to know when we’re happy but not when we’re sad
when we’re laughing out loud but not when we’re mad.
Express our feelings and they close their minds
would no more conversations really make them feel fine?
On Marital Rape and Consent
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 23 – MM was horrified at the lack of a law on marital rape in India. Read this article by the Times of India – Why Marital Rape Exists In Homes, In Data, But Not In Law. MM had only ever experienced caring and kindness in this aspect of her marriage, but she knew women who hadn’t. Women for who the bedroom was a place to tolerate. To endure. To dread. And to fear.
Life Second-Class – The Mother-in-Law
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 22 – MM loved her mother-in-law (referred to later as MM’s MIL) for many reasons I’ve mentioned before in ‘Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 3 – Equality at Home | A Wonderful Woman’. A separation of living spaces goes a long way in helping mother-in-law and daughter-in-law love each other. And there’s one more important factor we often under-value, namely, the role of the Indian man.
No Need For Display
Real faith on the inside and no need for display, only visible in our ways and the games we won’t play.
Microwave Madam on Building-Uncle
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 21 – Those of you who live in India will understand the term Building-Uncle even though it might be new to you. For those who don’t, in India, all elderly men are called Uncle wherever they go, and elderly women, Auntie. The Building-Uncle is my term for the uncle who lives within the same housing society or building.
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