Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 19 – He loved his work and his hobbies and didn’t wish to sacrifice these things. So he did something she’d been asking him to do for a long time without much success. He started to put aside his cellphone on the weekends!
Poem: Do You Ever?
Do you ever leave your house without your phone
call up somebody who lives alone
feel grateful for the friend who was there through the sad
let your maid have a day off when her back is bad?
To be a better wife I need a husband who’s here…
The lyrics of ‘To Be A Better Wife’ are written to the music of Here There and Everywhere – a song composed and written by the Beatles. I wrote this during the lockdown of 2020.
I could look at you in envy for all the things you have
the ease with which you cope and your luck when things get bad.
You show me I can shape my world and bring that little ease.
That when the wind is strong we might need to bend, or sway like those sturdy old trees…
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 17 –
She could have made this a battle with her husband, but the truth is, a large part of the problem was her. And HER ATTITUDES. Because she too had, without conscious thought, embraced this disrespect.
Poem: My Greatest Friend in Times of Need
My greatest friend in times of need
I talk to you, say what I please.
You help me out when times get tough
you listen – never say you’ve had enough.
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 16 –
Men-OH-Pause give your wives a break
don’t get up and leave them to wash up the plates.
They’re on their feet before every meal
cooking and washing and keeping the home clean.
She had always felt that society has a perceived value for money and things that far exceeds their actual utility, and their ability to create security and bring happiness.
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 15 – Menopause would be the biggest struggle for MM. Because our medical system is wonderful with surgery, hormone treatment and procedures for women. But it doesn’t address the biggest health issue that women face – the lack of rest and support for women at home.
Poem: A Visit With Dr. Google
We visit the doctor once a year
when we’re not feeling too good. Just to be sure all is clear.
The doctor tells us to have some tests
but we decide to try lifestyle changes and a little rest.
And time to BE and LET BE
Some togetherness and rest after a good meal.
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 14 – These women were stuck deep in patriarchy and the power games it allowed them to play – the martyrdom and suffering that gave them bargaining power. Power games that can make sons who are poorly educated, or have less opportunity to find their way, feel small within their home.
Poem: Wake Up – A New Time Is Come
You’re the mother-in-law who couldn’t let go
who spoon-fed your son ‘cos you wanted control.
The daughter-in-law who kept her mouth shut
and they pushed you so low that you couldn’t get up.
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 13 – People often think that giving to these rules is respect for the elderly. Forgetting there’s a price for it. A quicker decline for the elderly. And a frustration that affects personal relationships between the home manager and her family – especially her husband.
Poem: We Have To Pay The Piper
We have to pay the piper for all that we have got
if we don’t pay up when it’s due it’s gonna cost a lot.
He’s the one who sees the things we hide – the one who keeps the score
and when he thinks our payment’s due he’ll knock our every door.
If you prod the tigress – you with cruelty on your mind
you who have lost caring and respect for life and come from a family that doesn’t mind…
The above poem is written to highlight different aspects of rape in our society in a general way.