Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 29 – They can’t shape her in their likeness,
can’t swallow her whole. Can’t figure her out as she won’t keep her dreams small.
MM had seen quite a few families where elderly disfunction runs high. Much of it supported by tradition where elders express love by allowing younger women to serve them.
She’s the watch at home – keeps an eye on the maid who won’t work well on her own no matter how high she’s paid 😀
I’ve found a lovely silence after so many years
it feels nice to return to the way things were…
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 28 – Temper. My Friend. You keep me safe when the load gets too heavy and they won’t give me a break.
Speaking out calmly and assertively when there’s pushback is always a risk. Now, it was a risk she was willing to take. A risk she was angry enough to take.
I won’t be a victim – I ‘ll take the controls. Dig my own ditches or explore a new road.
Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 27 – It’s cuddly dog and happy face and we have to look our best, hair always neat and in place. Skirt around what’s going down because talking like it’s okay can turn things around.
This chapter was inspired by a wonderful book on positivity – ‘I’m OK – You’re OK’ by Thomas A Harris, MD.
They want to know when we’re happy but not when we’re sad
when we’re laughing out loud but not when we’re mad.
Express our feelings and they close their minds
would no more conversations really make them feel fine?
Book Review – Marie Kondo talks about the impact of tidying and ideas that keep spaces clutter free and remove the need for heavy daily tidying and cleaning. Reading it helped me as it was like meeting a like-minded soul even though I’m not yet as organized as the author appears to be, and might never get there.
Don’t do today what you can do tomorrow, hold on to things. Don’t acknowledge sorrow.
To choose different,
and dress different.