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Toe The Line

Should I be like you and tow the line,
follow rules that served a different time?

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Solutions – My Friend Temper

Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 28 – Temper. My Friend. You keep me safe when the load gets too heavy and they won’t give me a break.

Speaking out calmly and assertively when there’s pushback is always a risk. Now, it was a risk she was willing to take. A risk she was angry enough to take.

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Recipe – Baath Stove Cake

Baath is a Goan semolina and coconut cake. The cake batter is usually kept overnight before baking. My recipe works without the overnight soak, without an oven and with a very flexible interpretation of instructions. I hope you find it easy to follow.

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Solutions – Moving On From Anxiety

Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 27 – It’s cuddly dog and happy face and we have to look our best, hair always neat and in place. Skirt around what’s going down because talking like it’s okay can turn things around.

This chapter was inspired by a wonderful book on positivity – ‘I’m OK – You’re OK’ by Thomas A Harris, MD.

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Holding On To Self

Exploring Patriarchy Chapter 26 – As I mentioned in Chapter 24, Microwave Madam had begun practising sovereignty. This meant unlearning ideas that make women think that running on empty is ok. And learning that support is a two-way street.

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Will you accept your role and the part that you played, all those years that you looked away, pretended that all was well and things were okay, even though you knew she lived with fear each night and day?

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Hi, I’m Anitaelise. I teach piano lessons and write poetry. I love walking in the sun, listening to music and playing the piano. Happiness is seeing my students in piano class. Writing in my diary. Being out in the sun. Planting in my little compost pots. And looking up recipes that I’m never going to cook. Minimalism and and organization have relaxed my housekeeping and brought much joy to daily living.

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