Exploring Patriarchy – Chapter 1
Microwave Madam was starting to see.
She’d been looking around for years, stuck. Stuck and unwilling to acknowledge that women who had it easy had done something to get that ease. Labelling them lucky so she could ignore their wisdom. Lucky – that horrible word that women sometimes use without thought, to dis-respect or put down the achievements of other women. And to devalue the role of the homemaker.
She had changed and could now see solutions lying around in full sight. Solutions only visible when one is willing to see them.
Amid all those women who were digging their own ditches, she now saw the beacons of light. Family, friends and neighbours who had found small ways to happiness and made space for themselves in a comfortable manner, within the boundaries of the society they lived in. And they became her role models.
She began to learn that there are ways to make things work so that all within the family have freedom, love and support. She learned by looking and really seeing, for the first time in her married life.
A Tale of Two Families
Husband No 1 Nothing to do, nothing to do, my poor dear wife has nothing to do. I come home from work and the house is so clean and she's sitting and reading a magazine. The food is all cooked and our ironing is done, she looks like her day's been a lot of fun. She has nothing to do 'cos housework is easy, She nags! Maybe she needs some occupational therapy. So I sit down and ask her to get me some water to bring me my kindle and the newspaper. I sit down and wait while she serves dinner a little bit of work helps her keep her figure. Husband No 2 Too much to do, too much to do! My poor dear wife has too much to do! I come home from work and she's running around the dinner's on the stove and the ironing not done. The home and the family take all her time and her life is too busy, she needs to have fun! I walk in and get myself a drink of water then help her bring dinner to the table. My wife needs a break cos there's too much to do so I help her at home when I'm able. Wife No 1 (talking about Wife No 2) Too much to do, Too much to do, my dear friend really has too much to do? Nothings done 'cos she works at a comfortable pace she takes the breaks that she needs. I envy her style, how she does with a smile and the help that she gets makes me burn up inside. I do so much more but it's always a chore and I need to rest, but there's not enough time. There's so much to do and no-one at home who helps me. Wife No 2 (talking about Wife No 1) Too much to do, too much to do, my dear friend really has too much to do. She doesn't know when to take a break and thinks it's a sign that she's really great. She's stressed all the time and she takes so much trouble but what is it worth if she's always nagging? Child of Couple No 2 Too much to do, too much to do, My poor dear mother has too much to do. Child of Couple No 1 Nothing to do, nothing to do, my poor dear mother has nothing to do. I need to find something for her to do.
I invite you to read all chapters of Exploring Patriarchy and walk with Microwave Madam as she explores the impact of patriarchy on her life and on society. And looks for solutions.